This is a complicated issue and there are strong emotions on both sides. I am glad that this has not turned into an insult war (I'm on the Mod "bad-boy" list as it is)...
Some more stories...meant as food for thought:
I know a Social Worker who has worked with the terminally ill. There are stories of Hospice giving more morphine to hasten the death and end suffering, but it was not
this hospice. They were very stingy with the morphine and other painkillers. They were very careful not to allow the dosages become life-threatening...even if this meant the person had to suffer. "Please, don't tell me you manage pain through medication." she said to the administrator one day.
I cannot tell you the number of residents in nursing homes that get no visitors and are barely reactive, and on feeding...sometimes, the families ask the tubes to be removed or when they come out (they do wear out and fall out), ask that they not be reinserted. A lot of people go on for years..forgotten.
In one case, a 92-year old woman on dialysis wanted her treatment stopped. A psychiatrist was called in to declare her incompetent. He went in to interview her. He asked her why she wanted to end treatment. She told him that this was not the life she wanted. She was ruining the lives of her sister (who was two years older and caring for her), and the lives of her children. The psychiatrist pointed out that this amounted to suicide (she was Catholic). The woman laughed and said "we took it out of God's hands when we began this treatment...I just want to put it
back into God's hands...now don't get me wrong, I don't want to die." The psychiatrist nodded and left. The woman asked if he was going to declare her incompetent. "No" he replied "I'm going to tell them that they should respect your wishes".
On the other side of the issue. I know of three cases where a debilitated person had to fight tooth and nail because they wanted to live. One was a person with ALS (a.k.a. Lou Gehrig's disease) who wanted to be kept alive in order to see his daughter graduate. Time and time again, social services tried to cut off his benefits because he could get around. The other two involved brain-stem strokes: If they don't kill you, you get locked-in syndrome. This consists of being immobile and unable to communicate, but aware. They chose to live and also had to fight to get the care. The insurance company of one of them said "she just has to
die."
Several debilitated people fear that they will be pressured to die...this is a case with no easy answers...and little light at the end of the tunnel.
Again, this was
not meant to be a debate on Terri Schavio's case, but there is a most even-handed account
here.