Step 1: take an intro lesson. Then ask the CFI or any other pilot hanging around the airport what they wanted to do, how they went about it, did they get what they wanted,what their future goals are, etc.
There are many flying jobs other than airline pilot or military pilot; not many pay well or have much security, but if you really want to fly as much as possible, you can prepare yourself for that gypsy lifestyle and follow your bliss.
And remember: to fly commercially, perfect eyesight and a college degree are not requirements.
The "attitude"develops itself as you go forward with your lessons, and there are as many variations on it as there are pilots. Forget every stereotype you've seen or heard of... not all pilots are "elitist". The only things all professional pilots have in common are a love of flying and a willingness to be self-disciplined, at least when it comes to one's training.
Go for it, and ask lots of "stupid" questions- most pilots are more than happy to talk about flying- you may have trouble shutting them up!!
