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by **Sock** » Sat Oct 04, 2003 8:02 pm

Ahhh man....Can't I just drift aimlessly though life?

lol.

Sock

by **Wing Nut** » Sat Oct 04, 2003 8:30 pm

[quote]I gotta agree with Andy and Paz...When ever they talk, it's meaningless, has no substance.

by **loomex** » Sat Oct 04, 2003 8:44 pm

You all were kids at one time. It is true that they can be a real handfull, and downright annoying, however they basicly do and act by watching and hearing. It is true that they are a reflection on how the parents raise and treat them.
Never say never also. It will bite you in the a$$ later in life
Next time you have to deal with a child, try to find something they might like. Think OUTSIDE the box. Dont try to intrest them with a child activity, try firing up your flight sim, your driving game. Put an aviation video in the VCR. They is a load of stuff to try.
Look up to the left under my name. That little girl is my daughter. She will be two in November. At 6 Months she loved to watch NASCAR, now she likes to watch planes.

Ya never know
Chris

by **Sock** » Sat Oct 04, 2003 8:58 pm

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So you expected to maybe discuss 'War and Peace' with a four year old?

by **Paz** » Sat Oct 04, 2003 9:28 pm

For those of you who are still young, I suggest that you enjoy your childhood life for as long as you can

by **Wing Nut** » Sat Oct 04, 2003 9:43 pm

Sock:

It would seem we are on the same page after all. Our opinions are closer than you might think.

Paz:

What you may not realize is that when they are screaming their heads off like that, any type of reaction to it is a reward to them. Just the fact that you acknowledge their screaming encourages it more. Yes, I get plenty of dirty looks when one is screaming, but the only thing to do is nothing at all. That behavior must be ignored. It's not the parents being inconsiderate, it's being a good parent.

Loomex:

21 Month old Alexander is a computer geek. If I don't remove the chair from the computer desk, he is up there literrally every time I turn around. All I have to do is look sternly at him and he knows to get down. He sits on my lap while I play FS. ANYTHING with a button on it grabs his attention. He walks around with my cell phone and pretends he talks on it to mommy. Since I do not spank children (only a barbarian hits a child) it takes the message a lot longer to get through. You are correct when you say all it is is to divert their attention, but you have to do it about six hundred times a day.

by **Professor Brensec** » Sat Oct 04, 2003 10:07 pm

I have 3 natural kids (26, 25 & 23). I have another 7 step kids (from 30 down to 22). So they are all grown up and able to look after themselves. (well at least my 3 are....lol

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I brought up my 3 (and another 3 step kids) with my second wife, from the ages of around 8 - 15 onwards. I was reasonably strict but fair. The Mrs was the tempering influence, where the kids got the sympathy and the emotional stuff.

I taught my kids to look after themselves (cooking, cleaning, shooping, finances etc) as soon as I thought they were ready for it. I recall being criticised by many (their natural mother, for one) for being too serious or not caring enough.

I have a wonderful relationship with my kids. They appreciate what I did for them. They know that I was there for them through the worst of moments. They won't speak to their natural mother, she left them with me when they were 8, 10 and 11. Now who's the good parent and who's the 'no-hoper'?

The point of all this? I never really cared for kids. Not until they got to about 18. I didn't know what to say to them, and I never understood a single thing they did.

But then, now I have grandchildren and I love them to death, we have wonderful, peaceful and fun moments, every week.
My kids say to me, why weren't you that physical and attentive to us, and not so strict and serious and practical?(jokingly). I say to them (seriously), "that's your job now!" I'm here for the fun bit. For the serious stuff, you get them back.