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Friendship

Postby Romulus111VADT » Wed Feb 18, 2004 7:44 am

Too many people put off something that brings them joy just because they haven't thought about it, don't have it on their schedule, didn't know it was coming or are too rigid to depart from their routine.

I got to thinking one day about all those women on the Titanic who passed up dessert at dinner that fateful night in an effort to cut back. From then on, I've tried to be a little more flexible.

How many women out there will eat at home because their husband didn't suggest going out to dinner until after something had been thawed? Does the word "refrigeration" mean nothing to you?

How often have your kids dropped in to talk and sat in silence while you watched 'Jeopardy' on television?

Because Americans cram so much into their lives, we tend to schedule our headaches. We live on a sparse diet of promises we make to ourselves when all the conditions are perfect!

We'll go back and visit the grandparents when we get our kids toilet-trained. We'll entertain when we replace the living-room carpet.

We'll go on a second honeymoon when we get two more kids out of college.

Life has a way of accelerating as we get older. The days get shorter, and the list of promises to ourselves gets longer. One morning, we awaken, and all we have to show for our lives is a litany of "I'm going to," "I plan on," and "Someday, when things are settled down a bit."

When anyone calls my 'seize the moment' friend, he is open to adventure and available for trips. He keeps an open mind on new ideas.

He's enthusiasm for life is contagious. You talk with he for five minutes, and you're ready to trade your bad feet for a pair of Rollerblades and skip an elevator for a bungee cord.

My lips have not touched ice cream in 10 years. I love ice cream. It's just that I might as well apply it directly to my stomach with a spatula and eliminate the digestive process. The other day, I stopped the car and bought a triple-decker. If my car had hit an iceberg on the way home, I would have died happy.

Have you ever watched kids playing on a merry go round or listened to the rain lapping on the ground? Ever followed a butterfly's erratic flight or gazed at the sun into the fading night? Do you run through each day on the fly? When you ask "How are you?" Do you hear the reply?

When the day is done, do you lie in your bed with the next hundred chores running through your head? Ever told your child, "We'll do it tomorrow." And in your haste, not see his sorrow? Ever lost touch? Let a good friendship die? Just call to say "Hi"?

When you worry and hurry through your day, it is like an unopened gift....Thrown away... Life is not a race. Take it slower. Hear the music before the song is over.

"Life may not be the party we hoped for... but while we are here we might as well dance."

Now...go on and have a nice day. Do something you WANT to......not something on your SHOULD DO list. If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say? And why are you waiting?

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Re: Friendship

Postby loomex » Wed Feb 18, 2004 8:46 am

You know, about 50-75% of that describes me, more so it descibes my late sister even more. Her  basic idea was quality not quanity. When she died last year, I had to take a look at myself and what I saw was not very good.
Read what Romulus has written and apply it , or at least some of it, to your life.
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Re: Friendship

Postby Jared » Wed Feb 18, 2004 9:25 am

hmmm...what happens if you can't dance??? Do you still get invited to the party???

Some very interesting thoughts...:-)

Now my thoughts...

what would happen if we were to live every day as if it were our last?

1. We'd all be running around going to amusement parks going flying whatever we enjoy most...

2. Our bosses would never hear from us again, bu our credit card companies would be calling us everyday wanting their money...

3. We would eat out everynight, and put off shopping for food and clothes indefinately...

4. The crooks would be out on the street everynight stealing everything that they could get their hands on...

Just my thoughts for the day..;-)
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Re: Friendship

Postby Romulus111VADT » Wed Feb 18, 2004 11:11 am

   
hmmm...what happens if you can't dance??? Do you still get invited to the party???

Some very interesting thoughts...:-)

Now my thoughts...

what would happen if we were to live every day as if it were our last?

1. We'd all be running around going to amusement parks going flying whatever we enjoy most...

2. Our bosses would never hear from us again, bu our credit card companies would be calling us everyday wanting their money...

3. We would eat out everynight, and put off shopping for food and clothes indefinately...

4. The crooks would be out on the street everynight stealing everything that they could get their hands on...

Just my thoughts for the day..;-)


I'm not saying to do these things everyday...just more often.

Just slow down a bit and appreciate the people in your life a bit more. Before your standing by their coffins wishing you had found the time for them. Cherish all your loved ones while you have the chance. This is something I thought of standing beside my Grandmothers coffin four years ago:

IF EVER YOU'RE GOING TO LOVE ME

If ever you're going to love me, love me now while I can know all the sweet and tender feelings, which from real affection flow.

Love me now while I am living, do not wait till I am gone
then chisel it in marble -- warm love words on ice-cold stone.

If you've dear sweet thoughts about me, why not whisper them to me?

Don't you know it would make me happy and as glad could be?

If you wait till I'm sleeping never to waken here again,
there will be walls of earth between us and I couldn't hear you then.

If you knew someone was thirsting for a drop of water, sweet would you be so slow to bring it? Would you step on laggard feet?

There are tender hearts all around us, who are thirsting for our love, Why withhold from them what nature makes them crave all else above?

I won't need your warm caresses when the grass grows over my face I won't crave for your love and kisses in my last low resting place.

So, then, if you love me any, if it's but a little bit...
Let me know while I am living; I can own and treasure it...
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Re: Friendship

Postby ozzy72 » Wed Feb 18, 2004 2:26 pm

Wise words Romulus, a true pearl of wisdom that I for one will always try to heed ;)

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Re: Friendship

Postby Politically Incorrect » Wed Feb 18, 2004 3:33 pm

VERY, VERY GOOD!!!!!
Something we all could use a little of! ;)
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Re: Friendship

Postby Fozzer » Wed Feb 18, 2004 4:12 pm

I never did show my love to my Mum and Dad as much as I should have done before they died.
(They have long gone now, and I know they loved me to bits)...!
Now that I have realised that, I constantly tell all my children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren how much I love them all, and they tell me how much they love me back....which is FANTASTIC...!
...Tip of the day...
Keep telling everyone how much you love them*... :)...!

Cheers all...!

Great-Grandad Paul.... ;D...!

* I even give my neighbours a cuddle whenever I see them... ;)...!
...and the check-out ladies at my local super-market... ;D...!
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Re: Friendship

Postby FLYING_TRUCKER » Wed Feb 18, 2004 5:33 pm

Nicely composed Romulus.

A very wise LADY said to me twenty or so years ago:
"You never realize how much you love someone until the Lord takes them".

That very same LADY was serving tea and cake to a visiting group from the church along with the minister.  Oh, I guess there was six or seven of them and one of them commented on her Sterling Silver Service and how wonderful it would look to set before the Lord if he came to visit.
She promptly replied:  "The good Lord lives here every day, why would  he come here to visit?"

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Re: Friendship

Postby Fly2e » Wed Feb 18, 2004 5:36 pm

Your posts always hit home Romulus. Thank You.

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Re: Friendship

Postby Romulus111VADT » Wed Feb 18, 2004 7:59 pm

Your posts always hit home Romulus. Thank You.

Dave


I'm really glad that you and everyone seem to liked this. I personally have lost to many friends and loved ones. Some that make my heart ache with missing them and wishing to God I'd realized all this before it was far to late. I now cherish all my remaining loved ones. I cherish every moment that I'm given.

I personally got into a fight with my father and we didn't speak much for 10 years. Just as we had come to a point that we could talk again. He died suddenly of a massive heart attack. We hadn't seen one another for 10 years. Now all the fussing and arguing seem so petty and wasn't worth the cost.

I'm just trying to save some of our younger members (for that fact all members) the heart ache that I've had to deal with. It's one thing to lose a friend in war and feel the anguish of that. But to lose a family member to young and to have deal with the fact that my own stubbornness and pride cost me a loving relationship with my own father. It's a very bitter pill to swallow. The sorrow that goes to your very core is a very humbling and painful way to learn to love your family like they will be gone tomorrow.
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The Time is Now

Postby Scorpiоn » Wed Feb 18, 2004 9:56 pm

Those thoughts have been hazily looming around in my head for awhile, and have be hardening for the past week ot two.  Now, they're concrete.

Last year, I had a German pen pal, she gave me a super promt response (not even a week) but since I found it wierd to be writing so quickly by letter, so I postponed my response on purpose, same with my second, except I forgot to ever write the second.  By the time I remembered to write it, months had passed, and I felt embarrassed to write her back so late.  It's been something on my "to do" list ever since.  A couple days ago I said, "Allright, that's enough, here I am playing games while I could be writing to a could be freind."  So I wrote the letter.  You know what it cost me?  Five minutes.  My parents pay the postage.

Thanks Romulus, your post breathes new life into my "Time is the only enemy" saying. :)
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