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I'm so glad I can help some one finally!!!!!!
Your having the same problem I had, When you take off, (Before you start to move at all) bring the gear in, that's right, the sim won't alow it untill you in the air, but when you leave the gound you're gear will go up..... any way, do that and when you start your take off, watch your gear indicater, and pull back all the way, when it says the gear are retracting check your air speed. That speed is your landing speed.... When you are approacing keep the speed about 10 or 20 over the landing speed, and don't let the nose drop more than 10 degrees (Fighters are hard to flare at low speed) When it is time to flare (There should be a light that comes on when your close to the ground) hit the airbrake and pull back hard, (payclose attention to your hud, and only your hud) Your nose has got to get above the artificial horizon at least 5 degrees or it is nose into the ground and of coars brake to a stop.
Don't get frustrated, and this takes a litle trial and error but it is easy when you can understand it. remember all planes are different, and some of the noses drop be low the wings, so you'll have to flare harder on those.
Hope this helps
\m/ RAWK
~hanzaki