Heya Steve,
Proper Collective Control is the key for me. During landing I reduce the Collective and "balance" a nose-up attitude with a good rate of descent speed (this keeps your forward velocity down below 20 kts.). Right before I touch down I increase (or "Bump") the Collective slightly to reduce my rate of descent and I pull up on the control a bit more to decrease my forward velocity.
It takes a lot of practice to do it just right. You think that you have had some spectacular crashes? Hah!! I've got you waaaay beat on crashes!!
I have made a Helicopter Autopilot minipanel for all of my choppers which only has two gauges on it. I got the gauges (Helicopter Autopilot by Antti Pankkonen and Hover Gauge by Arne Bartels) from the AS-332 Hong Kong Flying Service Helicopter by Dirk E. Fassbender. You can get the download here:
http://www.simviation.com/fs2004helicopters7.htmThe Helicopter Autopilot gauge works just like an aircraft autopilot in that you can effectively fly your chopper on autopilot. It also helps on those "long hauls".
The Helicopter Hover gauge will hover your helicopter if your forward velocity is less than 40 kts. You can "adjust" your hover by moving the joystick slightly so that you can place your helicopter right above the big "H" on the helicopter landing pad. You can also "adjust" the hover altitude down to 10 ft. (the lowest altitude that the gauge will allow), disengage the Hover Gauge, and with a gentile "push" on the Collective you can land with a minimum of fuss.