Hello all!
Howdy.
1. Why don't I ever get approach or landing instructions or clearance from ATC, under any circumstances just handoffs and traffic sightings. ILS works fine and I am "guided in" but I never get clearance from ATC
You may not be fully using the ATC menu. Assuming you have it "switched on", if you are approaching a controlled field, and you select the option to tune to the tower frequency, you should get a clearance and other instructions. Enroute ATC may clear you to enter a Class B, for example, but oinly Tower can clear you to land, and they will direct you to the appropriate localizer or pattern entry instructions.
2. When I land, I never recieve ground control instructions, "taxi to gate" etc.
Same problem, I think, as #1. If that ATC window is open, once you touch down you should see an option to "contact Ground". Ground will give you taxi instructions.
3. Finally, Is there a way to tune your com1 or com2 to a frequency and initiate communication? I thought maybe that is why I never get any directions or clearance from ATC, but when I tune into my destination airport approach or any other frequency there is no way to "make contact" using the ATC menu unless I am doing somthing wrong.
Short answer: No.
The sim has to be ready to give you a menu item for initial contact. I don't know what the range is, but you have to be close enough for the airport in question to be on the list of available airports. Once you select that, the sim tunes your radio for you, and you then choose to contact them, followed by a list of possible requests.