This is a fairly simple process. I felt kinda dumb when it was explained to me . . .

Name the spoilers as normal (this will cause them to operate with the spoiler key). Now make a very simple object, perhaps a box. Make it something like 1" square; really small.
Place it exactly at the pivot point for the outside right spoiler and name it r_aileron_outside (the important part being the r_aileron). Rotate the pivot of this new box around until it matches that of the spoiler (you can do this by just copying the x,y,z info from the boxes at the bottom of the screen).
Select your spoiler again. Click the link button and link it to the box (r_aileron_outside) you just created. Now the spoiler will move when the aileron does.
Repeat all of that for the other three spoilers.
This will also work for any other combination of control surfaces.
Good Luck!